Victims, Survivors, and Neglect

I listened to a lady speak at the sentencing of a well publicized trial.  As she walked up to the front of the court she made a grand detour, walking out of the way to go an publicly (on camera) hug a line of women.  As she spoke her bitterness was clear, understandable given the heinousness of the crimes that the man was convicted.   She made one statement that struck me as interesting.  She said they were not "victims" but "survivors."  That statement was insightful as it seems to explain some things that have been occurring in our society.

Before discussing the main topic, first consider the definitions of victim and survivor.
Victim: A person who suffers from some adverse circumstance.

Survivor: A person who suffers from some adverse circumstance yet continues to exist.

But the way the term is used seems to be a rally call for female victims, who through there unity do not just survive but thrive. This attitude is prevalent in our society.

When this lady said her statement, her demeanor was strong and competitive.  Her walk by the row of women hugging each was a clear spiking of the football in the end-zone.  As I watched her I could not help but feel she was over acting.  But then it dawned on me the seriousness of the crimes that had been the focus of the trial.  I began to put this in the context of some other things.  But why did the support of this lady seem to be sought only from women? A horrible crime that all should easily be supportive.  This clear division of the sexes, and the demonstration of victory over their foe.

So why did there seem to be solidarity among women? Women have not been fairly treated by the court system in the past.  This left the women with few options.  They formed their own network in secret.  The secrecy coupled with fear and some devious leaders have lead the group astray,  as they do not seek solutions but division and retaliation.  The actions of a few divisive leaders have not sought justice but protection through division and isolation.  But as it says in the Bible a house divided must fall.

So the root of the issue is a lack of communication, understanding, respect, support, trust, truthfulness; basically a complete lack of love among both men and women.  I once felt the women were out of control.  But now I see neglect is abuse.  When we (men) did not give women their needs, they began to solve their own issues.  But God gave men the ability to satisfy women's need of security from the unknown, and to women the ability to satisfy men's needs.  So why don't we?